Separation can be tough, and all the conflicting emotions that come with it can take quite a toll on our self-esteem. However, after the emotional roller coaster ride is over, it soon becomes clear to us that we need to take control of our life and steer it in the right direction. The best place to start is to rebuild our confidence so we can move on, and the tips below show how we can do that.
Surround yourself with positive people
The people we choose to spend our time with can vastly influence the way we think about ourselves, our appearance, our age, and our current life situation. After separating from their spouses, most women tend to feel vulnerable, and therefore, they’re more prone to negative self-talk. This can further be escalated by the negative people they’re surrounding themselves with, which only attracts more negativity into their life and brings their confidence down.
After getting out of a relationship with your partner, it may be the right time to reevaluate the relationships you have with other people as well. Don’t feel like you need to remain friends with someone who puts you down and doesn’t value you for who you are. Instead, recognize toxic friendships and instead, seek out friendships with like-minded individuals who will help boost your self-esteem and encourage you to be open, friendly and positive.
Find yourself a new passion
Being stuck in a rut is no fun, but it can happen after a life-changing event such as divorce. Finding ways to engage ourselves in something positive and productive can be a practical solution to this problem, especially if we manage to find something we’re passionate about.
Take up a new hobby – it can be anything from gardening and baking to crafting and yoga. You can also try your hand at sports or enroll in dance classes. These group activities can be very fulfilling, not to mention how they can be the perfect opportunities to meet new people and build lasting friendships. Remember that you don’t have to excel at something to be able to enjoy it. By stepping outside of your comfort zone and trying something new, you’re bound to give your self-esteem a significant boost.
Jazz up your wardrobe
As you’re entering a new stage in your life, it makes sense that you’d want to make a fresh start and jazz up your wardrobe a bit. Oftentimes this will mean stepping out of your comfort zone and doing things you usually wouldn’t, and you need to keep your mind open rather than constrained.
Be it updating your wardrobe entirely, treating yourself to beautiful designer watches or finally getting those pricey shoes you’ve been eyeing for a while, symbolic gifts as these symbolize a new and exciting chapter in your life that you’re about to enter. Your fifties are the time when you should celebrate yourself and remind yourself of how great you are. So, let go of that fear of not fitting into a mold and shop for yourself, keeping in mind that the only person you need to make happy is yourself.
Express gratitude daily
Self-confidence also has to do with how grateful we are. Being confident and living a positive lifestyle is difficult when all we see are things we’re seemingly lacking while ignoring the good things that have happened in our lives. This is why it’s important to incorporate practicing gratitude into our everyday routine.
Start by reflecting on your qualities, accomplishments, and abilities, and count your blessings. Instead of comparing yourself to others, think about past events and the times when you had a positive self-image, and you’ll realize that there are so many things to be grateful for. Make it a daily habit to express gratitude – you can choose to write about it or you can meditate on those blessings. Either way, you’ll manage to shift your mindset and start feeling abundant, which will boost your confidence and, according to the Law of Attraction, invite more good things into your life.
Do something by yourself
Humans are social beings, and as such, they crave companionship. We rely on others to make us laugh, provide us with love and support, and share our thoughts, fears, and hopes. While socializing is crucial for our mental health, we also need to find some time in a day when we can be on our own.
As with everything in life, there needs to be some kind of balance. Do things with others, but also try to engage yourself in situations where you need to rely solely on yourself. Be it taking a solo trip for the weekend or enrolling yourself in a class, do something that’s interesting to you and where you have to utilize your skills and make decisions on your own. Doing so will show you how capable you are, and, in turn, help you feel more confident about yourself.
Our fifties are the time when we should feel our best, yet so many women see their confidence plummeting, especially after big life transitions such as separation. While it may be hard to imagine yourself oozing with confidence right after, if you take the necessary steps and take good care of yourself, you’ll get back on your feet and enter a new chapter in your life with confidence.
This guest post was graciously provided by Diana Wills