Many people think that the motivation to achieve their desired outcome is fostered by focusing on the positive results they’ll achieve when they complete their goal. Of course, in large part this is true. However, avoiding what you fear might be the more immediate source of your motivation.
Fear of failure, fear of being inadequate, and fear of looking foolish can all propel you to cover your bases, prepare thoroughly for any unexpected events, and make certain that you are well organized and on top of your game. So learn to use these types of fears to your advantage—they can move you forward with great energy.
Think of the donkey that is enticed by the carrot dangling close to his mouth. No doubt he’ll move in the direction of the crunchy, orange reward; but he’s far more likely to move with greater force away from the stick hovering over his hindquarters. We can usually put off and defer potential rewards. However, removing ourselves from pain (be it embarrassment, feeling inadequate, or failing at something) usually produces a far more immediate result.
Other fears, such as the fear you’ll make a wrong decision or the fear of taking risks, will stop you in your tracks. The best way to handle these types of fears is to call them to consciousness, understand their hold on you, how and why they’re limiting your potential for a full and meaningful life, and then do the necessary inner work to lesson their grip.
Fears can work to hold you back or they can propel you forward helping you to realize your greatest achievements; they act both as a stopping point, keeping you frozen in place, or as one of the greatest motivators you can access. Therefore it’s important to identify your fears, understand them and the grip they hold over you, and then learn to use them as a way to drive you onward to where you wish to be.
In other words, feel the fear… but stay feisty! This is your time to shine!