We all know the famous line credited to the late, great Bette Davis: “Old age ain’t no place for sissies, ”and oh… how right she was! Yet—being the modern with-it women we are—this is when we can start practicing the art of acceptance.
Acceptance, fortunately, is a point of view and life is all about perception. Despite our best efforts to the contrary, we are getting older and it takes some strength, as well as a little humor, to face the inevitable. The good news is that we have a choice as to how we choose to accept the changes the coming years are certain to bring.
Personal perceptions form our world-views and underscore the power of attitude. The self-help books are quick to point out that attitude is all encompassing and is the basis of how we experience our lives. Therefore, the world we create for ourselves is a reflection of our own attitude and where we choose to place our focus. In general, if we believe that the world is treating us well, then it is. If we think that we are loved, then we are. If we believe that we contribute to those around us and our existence is meaningful, then we will lead our lives in ways that reflect these values.
However, we will reap what we sow if our attitude is one of misery and self-pity. As we grow older, we do experience losses and some of them are seemingly inconsolable. Even the relatively minor losses of our youthful faces and bodies can be difficult to deal with.
Obviously we can’t ignore times of great sadness. But a sustained and pervasive weariness of spirit is the most aging attitude we can take. If, on the other hand, we choose to place our focus on the many joys we experience as wise and lusty women of maturity, our lives can be ones of deeply felt joy and fulfillment.
Besides, this way of thinking is so much more fun than despair or self-pity. So plan to focus on your feisty side and keep strutting your stuff for years to come!