Looking for work is never easy but it can be especially stressful for a jobseeker in midlife and beyond. This unquestionably difficult process is filled with personal rejection and everyday frustrations. To make matters worse, stories of ageism in the hiring process and job discrimination abound.
So how can you manage the daily stress, overcome the insults to your ego, keep your spirits up and project that all-important sense of self-esteem? Here are four powerful stress-busters that will help you do just that.
Ask For Advice
This may seem counterintuitive, especially for mature jobseekers. Shouldn’t you always strive to present yourself as a skilled, self-assured candidate?
It is true that you will want to project an aura of professionalism and confidence. Nevertheless, by asking a contact for advice, a piece of information or their thoughts in general, you will immediately engage them in the conversation. You are also far more likely to make them want to help you. Therefore, consider using one or more of the following examples the next time you interact with your network:
- “I’ve been looking to expand my target list of companies. Do you have any suggestions or recommendations of organizations that might be a good fit for me and my career goals?”
- “You’ve got such a visible presence in widget sales, do you have any thoughts on people I might contact to enlarge my network in the field?”
- “Although I pride myself on keeping my skills current, do you have any suggestions for ways I could increase my knowledge base so that I’d be viewed as an even more valuable candidate?”
Appreciation Is Key
People love being asked to give their thoughts and opinions. But be certain that you thank your networking contact for their help and advice. Besides displaying your good manners, there’s an added bonus to this practice. After letting them know how much you’ve appreciated their help, you can use this second opportunity to ask them for additional names—thereby enlarging your circle of potential leads:
- “This information has been so helpful, do you know anyone else who might be willing to give me their take on the current marketplace?”
In general, following-up with your contacts in a timely and courteous manner is vitally important to your job search success. People, especially those who have gone out of their way to provide you with either information or networking partners, will appreciate knowing that their time was well spent with you. So, along with your expression of gratitude, list specific ways you have or will follow-up on their suggestions:
- “Thank you for suggesting I contact Mary Marketer. We have an appointment set up for next week.”
- “I appreciate your suggestion that I read the article in Salesperson Weekly. I’ve done so and found it to be extremely helpful.”
- End your networking message with “Thanks again and I will keep you apprised of my progress.”
That way, you will have opened the door to contacting them from time to time. Later, you can express your ongoing thanks and/or ask for additional help and references. And don’t forget that successful relationship building needs to be two-way street. So pay it forward and send articles or other pieces of information that will be of interest to your networking partners.
Put A Halo On Your Head
Nothing can compare with the “Halo Effect” you will enjoy if you are recommended by a trusted colleague, co-worker, employee or friend. Employers want to know as much as possible about applicants so that they can avoid hiring any dreaded bad apples who might spoil their team. Equally, if not more important than work-specific skills, personal traits such as integrity, a willingness to cooperate, and a strong work ethic are prized. These kinds of strengths are assumed if a recommendation comes from someone they trust.
So spend the majority of your job search time on your network! Don’t be shy about requesting your contacts’ input and support. People feel good about recommending and helping their friends. Even more, this is an area where people over fifty have a decided advantage. You have a lifetime of relationships built up over the years including family, friends, coworkers, customers, clients, fellow club and church members, and professionals you’ve hired (e.g., doctors, lawyers, CPAs), to name a few. Also, your connections are generally with people close to your own age. Therefore those in your network may hold senior positions and will likely have ties with decision makers in your targeted companies.
Remember The Power Of Your Strengths
Although mature candidates do have negative stereotypes to overcome, you also bring multiple pluses to the job search. You have a well-honed skill set, market knowledge, an extensive personal and professional network, a mature work ethic and much, much more. Despite the realities of the modern job market, people do get people jobs. So use your social skills to your advantage and anticipate success—you just might become candidate #1 and land that great job sooner than you think!
And for more tips and strategies, take a moment to check out the recently updated and expanded Land the Job You Love. It will be your very own outplacement manual (a book/workbook) that’s packed with the latest information so you can successfully navigate the job market of today.