I’m the proud owner of a midlife crisis convertible. As my snappy ride is heading toward its twelfth birthday and getting up there in car-years, there’s some good new/bad news involved. The good news is that I’m no longer in crisis, the bad… well let’s just say I’m stretching the definition of midlife when I refer to myself as “middle-aged.”
But when the sun is shining and the top is down, nothing beats it. I even get the sense that the wind blowing against my skin gives me an instant facelift—so putting a little peddle to the metal (and, at my age, that means going over 35 mph) is a rejuvenating experience!
However, when the top is up, there is a decided blind spot created by the special design of the convertible’s ragtop. Even when using the side-mirrors my visual field is limited. Because of that, I’ve experienced my share of near misses so I’ve learned to be extra careful when changing lanes.
Interestingly, the limitations of my ragtop have recently become a metaphor for a personal life lesson I need to learn. I’m hoping this teaches me to employ the same caution I use while driving to my personal choices. I hadn’t realized how frequently my decisions fall under the limited vision created by my own blind spot.
Yes, I’m a self-confessed “assumer.” Although my intentions are good (at least I hope so), I’m prone to sometimes making rash judgments that fail to take into account all the potential ramifications. And sometimes these erroneous choices affect others.
Recently I did something I assumed would be fine… but it wasn’t. Thank goodness I perpetrated my faux pas upon one of my closest friends. Now that we’re older, more forthright, and menopausal, she spoke up and told me. What a gift!
Perhaps my personal life lesson might apply to you, too. As the end of the year is upon us and many of us tend to get reflective, it might be helpful to consider what you’re seeing in your own rear view mirror. Do you sometimes have your own assumptions that lead to faulty decision-making? Are you guilty of coming to rash conclusions? Do you have your own blind spot that may be affecting the way your choices impact family and friends in your own life?
As for me… my early New Year’s resolution is short but meaningful: assume less and ask more. That way the next time I change lanes in my personal life, I’ll be proceeding with necessary caution. Hopefully this life lesson, similar to driving my beloved midlife crisis car, will help me avoid those accidental errors that just might lead to a crash.