Comments on: Women Over Fifty—Feather Your Nest

By: Jacqueline

Jacqueline — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 03:44:40 +0000

If you ever get the chance, check out Dr. northrup’s Secret Pleasures of Menopause. She brings up the male/female melding aspect as well.

By: Brigit

Brigit — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 09:32:19 +0000

It was a double whammy, no tripple whammy, for me when my daughter left home earlier this year. Firstly I’m going through menopause. Haven’t had a period now for about 3 months….hopefully it’s not just stress. My 19 year old daughter left home to work in the snow fields. About a month prior my friend and lover of 5 years died. It was an unexpected accidental death, so unlike my daughter leaving home there was no warning, no expectation, bar a few minutes before his body was found.

Not an easy time, but you know, its funny how both these things happening at the same period of time have somehow distracted me from the momentous aspects of both those things when the going got tough in the earlier days. Sounds weird I know, but when I grieved for Alex I could ring my daughter. When I missed my daughter, I looked on the bright side – I could use the computer whenever I wanted to. The mess at home was mine and I had the time and space to blog and begin to rediscover the woman that became a mother 19 years prior.

All this stress together, has forced me to look at life very differently. Grief is still a constant visitor, but life is a constant, and that is something Alex reminds me of as he gives me strength of spirit almost daily

I can’t focus on the bigger picture any more, so happiness comes from the smallest of things, life is generally lived one day at a time and you what, I quite like it.

By: Lilja

Lilja — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 18:06:34 +0000

Great interview and very positive, thanks a lot. It’s necessary to talk about this period of live and even greater to point out that it is a new start. The more we hear from optimistic people like you, the better

By: Claudia's Chronicles

Claudia's Chronicles — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 04:55:09 +0000

Great information, interesting, I was just thinking about how empty my nest is feeling in a post at my Claudia Chronicles blog. And yes, it’s so much better being at the other side of meno, I can’t imagine what it would be like to be going through both at the same time!!

By: Karen O'Bannon

Karen O'Bannon — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 00:48:11 +0000

I’ve been working on reinvention for a while now. Not looking forward to the empty nest or menopausal headaches. Right now my daughter is my little buddy. Hard to imagine us at war. Not looking forward to my body attacking me either. LOL

By: dena

dena — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 21:56:52 +0000

I have moved into the ‘feathering my own nest’ stage. It has been difficult becoming a new person but I love who I am becoming. I am looking forward to a new, fun and exciting life.

By: Kathie M. Thomas

Kathie M. Thomas — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 10:24:32 +0000

I think I’ve always been feathering my nest – long before my girls were growing up. I love to explore and try things out but I guess I have even more an excuse now, don’t I?

By: Pop Art Diva

Pop Art Diva — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 21:13:09 +0000

Since my nest has always been fairly empty – feathered only by my little birds, Tinkerbell and Peter Pan, and accented in fur by Shadow and Pixel. With only my little Pixel left to keep me company my nest is a bit quiet, but I’ve never experienced the actual “empty nest” syndrome and have always keep my horizons expanded. The hot flashes were a big annoyance that just got in my way, lol.

By: Lynn Thomas

Lynn Thomas — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 18:45:45 +0000

The interview was great! “I love the expression to feather your nest with new interests!”
I tell people I am re-creating myself every few years. Thanks for sharing this with your readers!

By: Beverly Mahone

Beverly Mahone — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 14:54:26 +0000

Eileen,

I actually wrote about the relationship between mother and daughter during the menopausal-PMS years. I honestly believe that is the reason for the deterioration of the relationship. Both are going through hormonal changes—rages–and depending on how bad it gets–some relationships never recover.

It truly is a discussion that needs more attention.