Women Over 50—Our Friendships Run Deep
By the time we reach fifty, we’ve gone through a lot. We’ve lost loved ones to death and through the breaking of relationship ties. We’ve endured injured pride, damaged self-esteem, and crushing disappointments. We have sustained significant blows to the ego through painful experiences of rejection. And, we’ve seen our nest empty, watching our loved ones and ourselves grow older. We need our friends now more than ever! 
There is strength in numbers; there is power in the union. How many times have we struggled with a problem and, just as we throw up our hands in frustration and near-defeat, a devoted friend comes up with the perfect solution. Often we are too close to our own issues to be able to see them clearly. A good friend, however, cares for our best interests and, at the same time, is one step removed. She can see the big picture, stand up for us when we can’t stand up for ourselves, and make sure our needs are met—or, at the very least, provide us with a really good laugh.
In fact, there is scientific proof that friendships play a vital and critical role in the lives of women. Repeatedly, studies have shown that those ladies with very few or limited friendships are not as healthy—nor do they live as long—as others who enjoy a wider circle of supportive friends and deeper, more meaningful relationships.
As the writer, Christi Mary Warner, once remarked, “A friend is one who knows all about you and likes you anyway.” What a blessing it is to find acceptance and love for our authentic selves, imperfect and flawed as we may be. In fact, rich and deep friendships that have endured over time may be the greatest gift our years bring us. So, as we enjoy the lazy, hazy days of summer, why not share the sunshine with a good and true friend?
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February 25th, 2009 at 1:11 pm
Mary Eileen — Thank you kindly, mi’lady! Good to know that a big ol’ bunch of us really like who and how we are at this age. Honestly, I just feel like I’m nearing completion! ‘Bout time, eh?
February 25th, 2009 at 8:22 am
It’s not surprising that we fiftyish “bloomers” are all thinking the same. I’ve just devoted my last couple of posts to my girlfriends and the many blessings they provide. Now you tell me I will likely live longer because of them. I KNEW they were life-savers!
August 29th, 2008 at 5:32 am
This post is so lovely! I’m sure we all appreciate what having friends means, and appreciate everything that they are and do for us. Having a community of women who want to reach out and make friends across the nation is what we’re about at http://www.womenetcetera.com. I hope you’ll become a friend too!
August 22nd, 2008 at 11:29 pm
I to have a very good friend, we met in school many years ago, we’ve both moved away, but we still keep in touch, you always know a true friend, and she is my true dear friend.
August 7th, 2008 at 7:15 am
What would we do without our friends and where would we end up? My friends have pulled me through some bitter days – what a blessing …angels who laugh with us, let us cry, and be ourselves. It’s sure nice to let it all hang out with my girlfriends!
August 6th, 2008 at 6:04 am
Eileen,
What a beautiful post! You are so true. It has been my girlfriends who have seen me through so many difficult times in my life. And they have been there to celebrate the wonderful happenings. My aunt told me once a long time ago that “children grow up and move on, husbands may come and go (hopefully not!), but girlfriends are forever!” And I’m happy to have found a whole new group of friends in my Diva sisters!
August 3rd, 2008 at 2:53 pm
Eileen, I couldn’t agree with you more. I have friends in my life now who have been a God send in so many ways. My Boomer Nation Sisters, are accepting of one another and the encouragement is priceless. Good topic!
August 3rd, 2008 at 2:26 pm
What a beautiful post and picture…is that you? Yes, you’re right, we’ve been through so many things in recent years, and there’s nothing like a good friend to share with that knows just what you’re going through.
August 3rd, 2008 at 1:59 pm
Truer words were never written – if it weren’t for my friends I doubt I’d still be around – for many reasons!
But I prefer the phrase “A friend is one who knows all about you and accepts all of you – the good and the bad – because they know that is what makes you You!”
August 3rd, 2008 at 8:57 am
This post just made me feel warm and happy!
I am a good friend, and love my friends deeply.
One of the biggest points that I bring to my clients is the need to learn to make and keep good friends in order to feel safe and happy in the world.
Just last week, I started a socialization and support group for clients and people in the community with fears, phobias, ADD, OCD, and more. I find that when clients have more social interaction (including with animals), they get better. I used meetup.com to set this up, and had the first meeting. I saw major improvement already in a few clients. They met people that they can talk to easily, with similar issues.
Wonderful to read another of your great posts!
Sally
http://www.drsallywitt.com
August 2nd, 2008 at 1:06 pm
I love this post! My friends are so special to me. Thank you for reminding us that friends are a blessing and a treasure in our lives.
August 2nd, 2008 at 9:55 am
I still keep in touch with friends I’ve known since elementary school. We have so much history to laugh about and share and it’s good to know when I’m really in need of a good friend, I have someone to turn to.
August 2nd, 2008 at 5:22 am
I couldn’t agree more. I had no sisters, so my girlfriends really took their place. My long lasting friendships have taken be through marriage, divorce, death, birth and everything in between. Good listening without judgement is what I truly value.
August 1st, 2008 at 6:36 am
I like this saying “A friend is one who knows all about you and likes you anyway.”
And I am definitely going to share it.
Thank you.
Bear((( )))